Ask Psychologist Dr. Robert Saltzman, Ph.D.
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I will be glad to receive questions by e-mail from anyone who visits my website, and will reply to as many of them as possible in the time I have available. If your question is of general interest, I will publish it, along with my reply, here on the website. If I find that I can address your question in just a few words, I may send you a personal email reply without publishing your question here on the site.
I would like to apologize to the many people who have sent questions and still are waiting to hear from me. When I began this website in 2004, my intention was to provide useful advice on mental/emotional/physical healing, psychotherapy, philosophical awareness, self-understanding, and spiritual unfoldment for those who otherwise might not have access to my training and point of view, that of an experienced clinical psychologist and psychotherapist. I am happy to say that the site has been successful. In these past years I have received thousands of questions from all over the planet, and have replied to hundreds of them--some here on the site, and many others privately. Due to its popularity, the site comes up in first place in a google search for "ask psychologist," and the site receives many hundreds of visitors daily.
Unfortunately, the very success of this website means that more and more questions must go unaddressed. My inbox is simply jammed with letters to "Dr. Robert"--so jammed in fact that I cannot even read all of them fully, much less reply. Even if I did not have my psychotherapy practice and other work to attend to, I still would not be able to deal fully with this volume of mail. Evidently a significant number of people from all over the world want and need psychological advice and are finding it here. But I can do only what time allows, and so I will never be able fully to address the needs of everyone who visits this site. For that I am sorry.
By the way, if you are thinking of sending me a question, it will stand a much better chance of being read and answered if you keep your letter short and to the point, leaving out unnecessary background, and simply asking what it is you most want to ask. Honestly, when I open an email and find many hundreds of rambling words about minor details staring me in the face, I often just move on to the next letter. Not that I don't care--for I do feel and understand the pain and worry which underlies most of the letters I receive--but my time is limited, and I am forced to choose. I am doing the best I can to keep up, so please help by paring down your words to the minimum, and leaving out unnecessary detail. Thanks.
Your letter will be received better if you write it in the best style you can. Pay attention to spelling and grammar. This is not informal email, but a formal letter which may be published on this website for all to read. The more time I have to spend correcting your writing the less time I have for replies. Please do not use ellipses (dot, dot, dot) . . . . If English is not your native language, don't worry. I will understand.
Be advised: Here on this site I do not mince words or beat around the bush. If you approach me for advice, I will tell you exactly what I think, withholding nothing. I try to be as kind and gentle as possible, but I will not tap-dance around the issues as I see them. That would only be a waste of my time and yours. So if you ask a question, be prepared for a straight-forward, no-nonsense reply.
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Click on the links to view past questions and replies. Be advised that the information on this website is not intended to replace the personal relationship between patient and physician or therapist, and that my replies to questions are not a substitute for psychotherapy. If you are seriously troubled, it is your responsibility to seek help from a qualified therapist who will meet with you personally.
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